That is Rule 37 in the book. One of my Crew Members said she is having trouble with a professor who insults the class, says demeaning things and says that it is painful to be there.
First of all, you are paying for your education so while I understand that you might not want to make waves while in her class, if this problem is extensive you and several of your classmates in a rational manner should let the school know what is going on after you have finished the class
If the class feels universally degraded and you inform the school it will do a couple of things: assist the school in making itself better, help the people in her class in the future and make yourself feel like you have not been abused without recourse. That will give you a sense of power.
IF YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE TO TAKE ANOTHER CLASS FORM HER AT SOME TIME – keep that in mind. It just may not be something you are willing to do but remembering that it is an option will make you feel less powerless.
But while you are still in there you can work Rule 37. Remember what she says has nothing to do with you. She says it to everybody. Make observation a project. Think about how interesting it is that a grown person feels the need to do this. When mom runs into these kinds of people she keeps in mind the fact that everybody comes to the party with baggage. You don't know what's wrong with her or why. When Mom runs into difficult people she becomes a professor of human conduct running an observation experiment. (re-read a bit of her story dealing with dad – that might help as much as the rules)
Be like Spock when he saw human emotion. Say to yourself out loud "fascinating."
Look for patterns, does one thing set her off and not another? Are some days worse than others? Not so you can avoid what she does but to put her conduct in the context of a lesson in human behavior as opposed to personal commentary. Don't take in her insults – study them. Think about it as if you are getting a whole second class in psychology free of charge.
My mom was so good at this she could find out what's wrong with a person and work them like a job. She said the other day when we were talking about my Dad "yea, you know once I figure out what kind of crazy you are I can beat you with your own crazy stick"
Most folk can't do that though. I can on rare occasions but it's tough.
Then Globalize you pain quotient. Had you been living in Haiti, it wouldn't be the teacher coming down on you but the very school itself. We are a lucky and blessed people. THAT DOESN'T MEAN YOU HAVEN'T GOT THE RIGHT TO FEEL BAD BECAUSE OTHERS HAVE IT WORSE!!!!!!!" It just means that you have the power to feel otherwise.
Feel it! Believe it! Work it like a job! On a mental level (NOT OUT LOUD) Tell that woman to kiss your emotional . . .
Uh oh. Got excited. But you get my meaning.
Hi Judge Lynn, thats some good stuff right there.
My supervisor treats my office mate one way and me another.
She is from another country (my office mate), and she seems to think that is why, but i just dont allowed her to be rude to me i am not having it and i tell her she shouldnt either. In the office they say she does it to her cause my office mate allows it.
She is my stuper an i am in no way disrespectful cause i dont play that.
I wlll be here 23 years come may and i do my job.
Peace & Blessings
Your Honor i havent said it in awhile, but you are the bomb, just keep doing what you do.
I don't know about anybody else, but I love it when it's raining outside and the Judge can't get-out to hit some balls and then she gets online and "gets carried away". LOLOL
LOL that last part made me laugh.
Reporting a teacher worked in my college…had a algebra 2 teacher that really sucked he didn't want to teach it because he was more focused on teaching engineering classes. He was so awful I only went to class when the syllabus said we had a exam…not like he ever was teaching algebra anyway. But there was the other teacher I had had for algebra 1 class and I got a petition together so she would be the only person to teach algebra 1 and 2. The dean said I needed her to agree to it but needed to realize I couldn't benefit because I passed 2 with a C even though I didn't go to class. I explained it all to the teacher and she said yes and even invited me to sit in on her class for free to pick up what I wasn't taught from that other guy. I then went to the administrator that assigned the classes to teachers and she made it work for the following semester…that guy never taught algebra 1 or 2 again and she took on both classes.
Oh also thanks for the clarification I can stop obsessing now…this book would make a great class.
Hello everybody,
Judge Lynn, when people start acting up and lashing out it's usually something going on with them, it has nothing to do with the person they are mistreating. I usually ignore them, depending on my mood, if I'm moody, things turn out differently,for them.
No disrespect is given to them as they gave to me, I change the subject, and act as if they said nothing to me, or say to the person "you really feel that way" or "you think so". My husband says to me "you have high tolorence level" " your too even tempered" But that's not exactly true, I'm doing the exact opposite of what they expect me to do. Not given them what they are after, my (your) peace. And they will not get it.
Judge Lynn, the treadmill is a great workout, don't always want to do it, but work myself up to do it. You will work out all the your unwanted excitement, and feel refreshed when your done. It's a good feeling.
Almost forgot,
It's another beautiful day in Liverpool,ny sun is out and 50 degrees out. That doesn't sound like warm weather, byt when you have below teens and 20′ weather, you welcom any sign of warmth.
Have a wonderful day, everyone,
be blessed.
Arnell – where do you live … Liverpool in the UK?
In Liverpool, NY, they call it a suburb of Syracuse, NY.
AHHHH … ok gotcha Arnell.
Thanks Judge. I knew you would break it down for me. You are so right about the Pain Quotient.
The funny thing is everything that you said is the same thing that our Ed Psych Professor told us. Then he made a point to remind us that we are a great group of students and we have almost reached the end, so don't let her get under our skin, not to much anyway. He also told us that we need to go speak with the Dean. But do it collectively not individually.
It's also funny because I have been sitting in class all afternoon analyzing her. I really think there is some psychological problems going on with her. She is soooooooooo moody. It's like I'm being taught by Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. Even though I'm older than her, I'm still trying to respect her.
I will defintely use fascinating alot in her class.
I'm about to crawl in bed with a box of Girl Scout cookies. It's my addiction. LOL
Judge Lynn,
You couldn't have said it better!
Yolanda, that lady is CRAZY!!! Probably bi-polar too. You really have to excuse that type. It's a sickness.
I had a professor tell me he forgot I was in the class. Mind you, I was the only black in this 4 credit hour Geology course. Mmmmmmm… A class most of my colleagues avoided. Believe me that situation was not cute. Long story short, I got my money back. I could have used Rule 37 back then but I was younger and ruthless! Print what Judge Lynn wrote(post) and pull that paper out when she starts trippin'!
Judge Lynn, you are hilarious!
Good morning everyone
I wanted to stop by before I went to school to let hyou guys know that the WACKO teacher strikes again. I found out that for the 3rd time she has made one of the ladies(she is older than me) cry again. The 1st time was because she misspelled a word on a quiz. The professor wrote real bg on her paper the correct way to spell it. Then she went on a 30 minute rant that if we can't spell words we don't need to be teachers. It wasn't like the word was a simple word like, THE. I'm not sure why the 2nd time, but yesterday it was because she asked her to explainn why she marked something incorrect on her test. She pretty much told her because she was dumb with the response she gave. This lady is scared about speaking with the Dean. She doesn't want to make matters worse.
Too bad you guys can't audio tape her and just annonymously send the tape to the dean.